Ep 4 | Why Your House Stays Cluttered and How to Beat the Mess

Hey hey hey! We are talking about why your house seems like it stays cluttered and physical entropy starts to set in and you are feeling dismissed, frustrated, and resentment towards yourself and your environment. And this isn't a place we want to stay in for very long! Let's look at why our environment can get messy, and what to do about it. 

I take excerpts from one of my favorite books, "Atomic Habits," by James Clear because we need to understand our "home" habits. Why do things pile up? What are we not doing? What habits are we creating? Are we skipping clean the kitchen up at night in order to watch a tv show? How we operate in our minds and bodies can reflect our environment. You are stressed at work can turn into a messy house because you need to relieve the stress from work before tackling your piled up shit. It's learning about your cycle and patterns and what is creating your habits and what habits do you want to have in the future. 

We discuss the outcome based habit cycle and the identity based habit cycle, how craving plays a role in building habits, we define routines and how they matter, and you are learning about and understanding yourself a little bit better. 

For those who feel stressed out and overwhelmed with all the things that have to do with the mental load and cleaning the house and organizing, you aren't alone. Let's talk about it. Together. 

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What's up, Cueties? Thank you for joining us on the Cue the New You podcast. I'm your host Meritt, and how are you doing today? We've been in the hustle of the last of the school year with so many fuel trips and we're wrapping up the end of the sports seasons. I really can't believe. We have about three weeks left of our first school year in Spain. The kids have adjusted so well and we are just so grateful for the football club and the rugby club and the kids Gaelic football club. because a, everyone has welcomed us even though there is a slight language barrier with a lot of. Coaches and players still. But everyone has been so kind and helpful teaching and coaching our kids, and we've made a little bit of progress with learning Spanish, but the, and the parents are great as well, And I love seeing all the parents sitting together cheering, and we are always celebrating someone's birthday on the team, which makes it even more special because I feel like there's always cake or some type of dessert or celebration in. It is just, it's been so, so cool for us. What's different about sports over here is that it's during the school year, so from September to June, sports are on. There's no like winter league, spring League summer sport, or fall sport like in the US at least, where. I'm from, so it's nine months of playing the same sport, which I like because it gives the team and players a long time to connect with one another and develop as a team. I mean, there's sports you can play over the summer, but it's nice to. I kind of have that align with school. And then in the summer, if you don't, if you choose not to play a sport, then you have the summer to chill out. But all right, enough about Spain. This podcast episode is going to be wrapping up our series about entropy. First we dove into emotional entropy, then mental entropy, and now we are going to dive into physical entropy. So let's define physical entropy. Physical entropy is when you go from organized to disorganized, especially in the home. You may have dishes that have piled it up, laundry that has piled up both dirty and clean. You have dog or cat hair all throughout your house like we do sports things are thrown everywhere. You may have toys all around the house, and it feels like the more you try to keep up, the more you feel like you are drowning, feeling overwhelmed in the mind and body manifests in the physical. I can give you all the research there is to know about habit building, how to be organized, how to live a more minimalist life, but that won't help you much if you aren't used. To sticking with a habit or sticking to a cleaning routine. Building habits in routines take time, especially if you are juggling a partner. Kids work a social life. Physical entropy is a part we see, but it starts with the parts we feel. You can usually tell when I'm stressed out or in a busy season because my house isn't picked up all the time. Some weeks I choose one day to do a total house clean. Other times I'm picking everything up before bed. Life ebbs and flows. Routines can shift and you may be busier in some seasons than others. Today we are going to look at a few things from Atomic Habits written by James Clear because he gets to the root cause of how to build habits. And stick to routines by teaching how to shift your identity from the inside out so you don't fall into a negative spiral when you walk into your house and realize how messy it is, and blame yourself for not having a clean space or resent in your partner, because it seems like they never contribute and you're the only one who cleans. So this is from. Page 31, james Clear says, behind every system of actions is a system of beliefs. What he says about habits can also be applied to thoughts and mindset work. James describes what he calls the outcome based habits. This is what most people focus on changing the outcome first instead of changing your identity first. So what's within and belief comes when you start changing your identity with the outcome based habit. You start with the outcome process, and then you create an identity shift. The identity based habit starts with the identity shift first. Then the process, then the outcome. This is from Atomic Habits. Most people don't even consider identity change when they set out to improve. They just think, I wanna be skinny, which is the outcome, and if I stick to this diet, then I'll be skinny, which is a process. Or if I lose weight, then I'll be happy. They set goals and determine the actions they should take to achieve those goals without considering the beliefs that drive their actions. They never shift the way they look at themselves and they don't realize that their old identity can sabotage their new plans. For change change, our first mistake is that we try to change the wrong thing to understand. What I mean. Consider that there are three levels at which change can occur. You can imagine them like the layers of an onion. The first layer is changing your outcomes. This level is concerned with changing your results, losing weight, publishing a book, winning a championship. Most of the goals you set are associated with this level of change. The second layer is changing your process. This level is concerned with changing your habits in systems. Implementing a new routine at the gym. Decluttering your desk for better workflow. Developing a meditation practice. Most of the habits you build are associated with this level. The third and deepest layer is changing your identity. This level is concerned with changing your beliefs, your worldview, your self image, your judgements about yourself, and most of the beliefs, assumptions and biases you hold are associated with this level. Outcomes are about what you get. Processes are about what you do. Identity is about what you believe. Many people begin the process of changing their habits by focusing on what they want to achieve. This leads us to outcome-based habits. The alternative is to build identity based habits. With this approach, we start by focusing on who we wish to become. That was pages 29 through 31 of the book. In order for results to change, you have to become aware of your thoughts, process your feelings, change your habits, and believe in yourself. And that's when things become aligned. That's when the magic starts to happen. So how do you change who you are and what does this have to do with having my house in disarray? Well, your habits are built to protect and reinforce who you believe you are. So if you're trying to change your habits, for example, keeping your home more organized, sticking to routines, fighting physical entropy. But your underlying identity still sees yourself as the quote unquote messy one or bad at routines, or always behind, or even the one who does everything. Your subconscious will keep protecting that identity, even if it's making you miserable. William James wrote. The will to believe is the most important ingredient in creating belief in change, and that one of the most important methods of creating that belief was habits. Habits he noted are what allow us to do a thing with difficulty the first time, but soon do it more and more easily. And finally, with sufficient practice, do it semi mechanically. Or with hardly any consciousness at all. Once we choose who we want to be, people go to the way in which they have been exercised. Just as a sheet of paper or a coat. Once creased or folded, tends to fall forever afterward into the same identical folds. And that was from The Power of Habit by Charles Duhig, which is another fantastic book. Here are some things that happen once you start this identity shift process. First, you start to believe you can change. Second, you start to become aware of your beliefs and thoughts. Third, you start to challenge your thoughts and beliefs in order to shift your mindset. And lastly, you start to create an identity shift in order to create new habits. Which then will create new results. And this all ties together with cognitive psychology. And I've talked about the model before. And so if you use the model to help you get new results, this is part of it because you're doing this internal identity shift. So why belief? Why belief shifts are central to habit shifts. Identity is the foundation of habit. So Clear says the most effective way to change your habits is to focus not on what you want to achieve, but on who you wish to become. Again, this is the internalized identity shift. An example is instead of saying, I want a clean house, say I'm someone who creates order in my space, and this moves the change from behavior, which is the output to identity, which is the process, then you start acting in alignment with who you think you are. If you believed you are disorganized, you'll subconsciously seek proof of that, like skipping cleanup, avoiding systems, or self-sabotaging. When you shift to thinking, I'm the kind of person who values clarity and flow in my home, you'll start doing things that reinforce that belief, so you'll cheer yourself on when you believe you are setting your future self up for success. Even though you want to sit down for the night and scroll on TikTok instead of cleaning the kitchen, but you are shifting your identity and instead of sitting down, you get up and you go clean your kitchen. You know what it feels like to walk into a clean kitchen in the mornings, just like you know how it feels to walk into a messy kitchen in the mornings. When you start trying to get everything ready for work or for your kids' schools, you get to decide how you feel in the morning based on what you do the previous night. Belief gives you resilience and discipline. Habits often fall apart. That's normal. Life ebbs and flows, but if your identity hasn't shifted, you'll see that failure. As proof, and then you'll tell yourself, see, I knew I couldn't stick to it. And this is why people don't stick to diets either because they're trying to change the outcome versus changing the way that they think and believe and what they believe about themselves. But if your identity has shifted, you'll say, this isn't like me. Let's pause and reset. And that's how you bounce back. Or I guess quote unquote, get back on track is when you recognize the goings on of your mind and your thoughts, and you just take a second and pause and just observe everything. Shifting belief reduces the emotional weight of physical tasks. You stop seeing cleaning or organizing as punishment or proof of failure. Instead, it becomes a way you take care of your environment because it reflects who you are. And this can also relate to the way you take care of your mind and your body and how you're showing up in the world. Clear says habits are the compound interest of self-improvement. You can make time for. Work for you rather than against you. Good habits make time. Your ally bad habits make time. Your enemy habits aren't just behaviors we repeat. They're deeply wired into our brain's neurology. Understanding how habits form at the neural level helps explain why they can be so difficult to change when we repeat an action. Our brain strengthens the neuropathways associated with it. This process known as synaptic pruning means that the habits we use often become stronger while those we neglect fade away. And the words of neuropsychologists Donald, I don't know if it's HEB or ebb, but it's HEBB. Um, so we'll say Donald heb. But he says, quote, neurons that fire together, wired together. End quote. This is why changing habits requires deliberate effort because we're essentially rewiring the brain. But the good news is that neuroplasticity, which is the brain's ability to adapt and rewire itself, means we can create new automatic behaviors by consistently practicing different routines. So let's look at clear's habit loop so you can understand how habits are formed in ways you can stick with routines. What a lot of people miss is the identity shift, and they try to change their results by changing something on the outside without changing yourself from within. It's like my friend who hired a dietician to help her lose weight, but all the dietician did was give her a set of meals to eat. So wasn't actually being taught how to eat or what she needs to eat in order to fuel her body and make her feel great because what happens when she stops hiring the dietician? And the ready-made meals have disappeared. Like what did she actually learn from doing that process instead? I actually think there's an app called Noom that talks about the psychology behind eating. I've never used it or know that much about it. I just have seen ads about it. I think it should teach you how to eat. But also maybe figure out why you are binge eating or why your body is craving sugar or how you can make healthier choices without restricting yourself. I'm not sure if, if you know about Noom, let me know if I'm semi accurate about that. But over time, your mind becomes free of the. What can I eat or I need to lose weight mentality. And you actually start living life and thinking about other things rather than being so consumed about what you're eating or food or your body all the time because you're actually getting to the root cause of your eating habits. You are understanding why you're eating the way you're eating. And with habits, you are understanding why you feel disorganized and messy, and you're reinforcing the belief of, I get to do this versus I need to do this. With habits, you are understanding why you feel disorganized and messy changing your belief, identity, and perspective of your space, environment, family dynamic, and belongings. Can change the way that you show up. So clear expanded on Charles Duhigg's Higg's habit loop by adding a step and he added the craving. So clears four step habit loop. Looks like this. You have the cue first, which is what triggers the habit. You have the craving next, the desire or motivation behind it. The response, which is the action you take or don't take. The reward, the satisfaction you gain from completing bleeding the loop. And it sounds a lot like the guilt, shame loop or a thought loop, right? Both models. Highlight the essential points that habits are built by linking a cue to a reward. And you need to understand the craving behind the habit because you're not craving the habit itself, but the emotional or physical state, it gives you the key to changing a habit. It's to keep the cue and their reward the same while shifting the routine. So a new routine or goal could be creating a cleaning schedule quote. Goals are about the results you want to achieve. Systems are about the processes that lead to those results. Goals are good for setting a direction, but systems are best for making progress. A handful of problems arise when you spend too much time thinking about your goals and not enough time designing your systems. That was from Atomic Habits. If you are like me. I'm sure you've tried a chart wheel or a chore calendar, a cleaning calendar, a family schedule, and you keep up with the things for a little while, but then something happens or comes up and you've lost traction and you're falling back to feeling disorganized and messy, and you blame the chore chart or calendar. For not helping you when really it's how you feel and what you believe about yourself in your space. If you need a break, take a break, but you have to plan for when things start piling up. You need to plan around obstacles or things that can get in your way. This is what he means by creating a system. You need to look at more things than just creating and cleaning routine and hoping you'll stick to it. This time. remember that the start of habits is by practicing the art of showing up. In order to obtain new results in your life, you need to be aware of what you are currently thinking, feeling and doing, breaking down your current thoughts and beliefs, questioning why you're believing these current thoughts, and asking yourself, what would my future self want me to think or want me to believe? Then start by figuring out your cues or triggers for feelings. Again, not every emotion or feeling needs to be stripped down. You can feel joyful or grateful without writing down exactly what thoughts you thought to bring you to this feeling. If it is a recurring feeling, like anxiety, sadness, loneliness. Then learn to understand why you feel that way and what creates this feeling for you. Make a plan for when you are feeling anxious, sad, or lonely. The more detail you can get, the better. Then turn to your habits. What are you doing when you currently feel anxious? What does your future self do? When feeling anxious? What steps or habits can you create in order to go from your current self to your future self? So let's look at some obstacles. Obstacles could be you have a perfectionism mindset, unrealistic time expectation, emotional resistance, too rigid with your schedule. Your family gets sick. You get sick, you travel unexpectedly for work, you just feel overwhelmed. In general, you have a lack of belief. And you don't have, you aren't creating this identity shift, so you're trying to do new things with old thoughts, and that's going to make you revert back to your old habits. The other thing happening is that you have to learn how to show up for yourself and do what you say you're going to do. The more times you do something, the more times you do something. So if you decide to do laundry instead of scroll on your phone, you are reinforcing that behavior of getting something done. When things get messy for me, I put my headphones on and put on a playlist that helps me get moving, or I listen to an audio book without taking action. Nothing is going to get done. Complaining isn't going to get anything done. You just have to start. You just have to do the thing you don't wanna do sometimes. Okay, so getting over obstacles. I like to write whatever obstacles may come up and then write a plan for each one. Now this isn't like a detailed plan or anything, but it's just to get my mind aware of what I can do if something does come up. When you plan around an obstacle and you follow through with that plan, you're building self-trust. Once you establish self-trust, you develop self-belief. You start believing in yourself and your goals and believing that your goal is possible. You start making better decisions. You start seeing the little wins throughout the day. For example, I created a Q1 Q4 goal planner, so Porter one. Two, three, quarter, four for the year, and I have four major goal categories per quarter that I'm focusing on. So in quarter two, I have a 1% better goal, a business goal, wellness goal, and social media goal. And for each category, I have listed obstacles and how to overcome those obstacles. So for example, for my 1% better goal, the goal being. To show up for myself with more intention through daily self-care rituals in a simplified confident wardrobe refresh. Because when you feel put together, your energy shifts, your content hits better, and your confidence is louder. When your home or environment is, is simplified and clean, you feel better. When you feel better, you have more time and more energy creating. A snowball effect. But when something comes up and you get off track, you have to plan on how to bounce back when your habits or routines get broken. cause as I mentioned before, a habits do fall apart. Sometimes my possible obstacles for my 1% better goal. It includes not feeling motivated to get dressed or put the effort in, especially if I'm just like running to the grocery store, um, comparing my looks or clothes with others or to others, I guess feeling like I don't have time to get myself dressed and put together, and these are ways I can overcome these obstacles. I can ask myself, what would the most grounded, confident version of me do right now? What would my hot and successful self wear out? Right now I can unfollow aesthetic, heavy accounts and social media. Because we want social media to inspire us, not. Leave us feeling like we aren't good enough or like I'll never be able to achieve this kind of look. I can treat self care like brushing teeth. Brushing teeth for me is a non-negotiable. So taking the time to do my skincare or iron my clothes and do my hair, that should be built into my routine already. So if that means waking up earlier, then I wake up earlier. For cleaning, I created a cleaning checklist with daily cleaning routines that focus on hygiene, pet care, and clutter. A weekly routine that prevents buildup and maintains cleanliness. A monthly routine that is less frequent, but still important for maintaining a clean home in a yearly routine that is seasonal, deep cleans and maintenance. So whatever needs to be fixed or replaced. Most of the time, the obstacles I face when following a cleaning schedule is I create a two rigid schedule and I try to map out my day to day by mapping out my hour to hour. So I'll put at 8:00 AM clean this, or at 3:20 PM Do this. And I don't like following a schedule like that. I don't know what it is. I think it's just, I don't like being told what to do at a certain time. So instead, I've incorporated cleaning into my morning routine and my nighttime routine. So in the mornings I'll wipe down the bathrooms, do some laundry, I'll sweep, unload the dishwasher, little things like that, something that's not taking up too much time. And at night I'll pick up the den and clean the kitchen. I may pick up the kids' things throughout the house and throw their things into their rooms. And then I like to choose a weekend day where everyone in the house has a chore and we reset the house and give it a good clean. Most obstacles for me are, I just don't feel like cleaning. I'm not in the mood. I'll do it later. Or I don't have time. How I've gotten around those obstacles is when I don't feel like it. I just do it anyways. I once heard someone say that I don't feel like it is an excuse and I don't like using that as an excuse anymore. Like do I really not feel like doing it or have I just wired my brain to crave relaxing time or Netflix over cleaning. The I'll do it later. Obstacle is either because I ran out of time, my schedule shifted, something came up and I plan to do, but I plan to actually do the thing later. So I'll make a mental note and I'll do it later. I've trained myself to follow through with what I say I'm going to do, which. Was a really weak skill of mine years ago. The I don't have time may seem legit, but again, it's used as an excuse to not do something like what made you run out of time to begin with, to bring you on your phone too long and you had to rush to get ready, and therefore you aren't showing up as your best self because you're already anxious feeling because you've rushed and now you're worried about being late. To somewhere which stresses you out. So you arrive at the place of intent, flustered and anxious. Maybe it's waking up 15 minutes earlier in order to have the time to get yourself ready or to be able to clean the kitchen before anyone wakes up. Like I love sitting a 15 minute timer, and we did this when we lived in the States at night, but. We would set a timer and then everyone had to pick everything up and put it in their homes. A big change that happened for us was I created a system where everything in our house had a home. There isn't unnecessary clutter or piles of toys around because everything has its own space. I also created a productivity break to help. So the queue for the productivity break is break time. My routine is the productive break. The reward is gaining a small win and some cleaning gets done. So I have a list of things and I choose. One thing off that list. So for example, I have nightstand, fridge, floors, hall, closet, and beside each one I have the task of what I'm doing. So with the nightstand, I will rearrange it and dust it the fridge task is to reorganize and wipe down and figure out what groceries we need. Floors is to vacuum, sweep, or mop, and the hall closet is to reorganize it. I set myself up for success because I'm not overwhelming myself with trying to reorganize everything at once. I simply choose an area to clean and reorganize a day, or, I mean, you can even do this weekly so things don't pile up. So during my work day. I have a productive break, and again, that's usually 10, 15 minutes. I know sometimes, especially coming back from a trip, our hall closet can get disorganized very quickly and it's nice just taking those few minutes to just set it back up and to have it organized again. So how to create new habits is by changing your routine. Again, clear's Habit loop is you have the cue, the craving routine reward, here is an excerpt from Atomic Habits. Every behavior has a surface level craving and a deeper underlying motive. Some of our underlying motives include conserve energy, obtain food and water, find love and reproduce, connect and bond with others. When social acceptance and approval reduce uncertainty, achieve status and prestige. A craving is just a specific manifestation of a deeper, underlying motive. Your brain did not evolve with a desire to smoke cigarettes or to check Instagram or to play video games At a deep level, you simply want to reduce uncertainty and relieve anxiety. To win social acceptance and approval or to achieve status, find love and reproduce equals using tinder. Connect and bond with others equals browsing. Facebook win. Social acceptance and approval equals posting on Instagram. Reduce uncertainty equals searching on Google. Achieve status and prestige equals playing video games. Your habits are modern day solutions to ancient desires, new versions of old vices, there are many different ways to address the same underlying motive. How do you reduce stress? One person might learn to reduce stress by smoking a cigarette. Another person learns to ease their anxiety by going for a run. Your current habits are not necessarily the best way to solve the problems you face. They are just the methods you learn to use. Once you associate a solution with the problem you need to solve, you keep coming back to it. Habits are all about associations. These associations determine whether we predict a habit to be worth repeating or not. Your brain is continually absorbing information and noticing cues in the environment. Every time you perceive a cue, your brain runs a simulation and makes a prediction about what to do in the next moment. So cue you notice that the stove is hot prediction. If I touch it, I'll get burned, so I should avoid touching it. Q, you see the traffic light turn green. Prediction. If I step on the gas, I'll make it safely through the intersection and get closer to my destination. So I should step on the gas. You see a queue, categorize it based on past experience and determine the appropriate response. All day long you are making your best guess of how to act. Given what you've just seen or what has worked for you in the past, you are endlessly predicting what will happen in the in the next moment. Our behavior is heavily dependent on these predictions. Put another way, our behavior is heavily dependent on how we interpret the events that happen to us, not necessarily the objective re reality of the events themselves. The cause of your habits is actually the prediction that precedes them. Feelings and emotion transform the cues we perceive and the predictions we make. Into a signal that we can apply, they help explain what we are currently sensing. A craving is a sense that something is missing. It is the desire to change your internal state. Motive is the underlying drive that pushes you into action. Desire is the difference between where you are now and where you want to be in the future. When you bingey or light up or browse social media, what you really want, is not a potato chip or a cigarette or a bunch of lights. What you really want is to feel different. Our feelings and emotions tell us whether to hold study in our current state or to make a change. They help us decide the best course of action Neurologists have discovered. That when emotions and feelings are impaired, we actually lose the ability to make decisions. We have no signal of what to pursue and what to avoid. End that excerpt. That was long, but I feel like it's really important. It highlights some important things. Now we have an understanding of habits of how habits are formed, so let's define what a routine is. Because in order to change a habit, you have to change the routine. So a routine is a set of actions or activities that are regularly followed in a particular order or pattern. It is a habitual way of doing things that helps to establish structure and consistency in daily life. Routines can be personal such as a morning routine or a bedtime routine, or they can be organizational, such as a work routine or school routine. Routines can help to reduce stress, increase productivity, and promote a sense of stability and control. Jan Stanley said a routine is a bridge between strategy and action routines. Constrained choices enable action, offer coherence, and offer stability and mutual ability. Creating a routine involves identifying the activities or habits. That you want to include in your routine, determining the order in which you'll perform them, and establishing a consistent schedule for following the routine. So for example, this is from the Power of Habit by Charles Duhig. If you want to starting new habit like running each morning, it's essential that you choose a simple cue, like always lacing up your sneakers before breakfast. Relieving your running clothes next to your bed in a clear reward, such as a midday treat, a sense of accomplishment from recording your meals or the endorphin rush you get from a jog. The countless studies have shown that it a cue and a reward on their own aren't enough for a new habit to last. Only when your brain starts expecting the reward, craving the endorphins, or sense of accomplishment. Will it become automatic to lace up your jogging shoes each morning? The cue, in addition to triggering a routine, must also trigger a craving with the reward to come with everything new. Start small, when you want to change all the things at once, you can get overwhelmed very easily and quickly. Or create a system that isn't sustainable. Oh, and end quote. By the way, another great way to help you is evaluating. Ask yourself what is working, what isn't working, and what can be changed if your house goes from organized to messy? Rather quickly figure out what isn't working. Is it you are too busy to do housework? Are you complicating meals and need to do more grocery deliveries to the house in Spain? I've hired a chef to come in once a week and meal prep for us, and that has been a game changer and a lifesaver. Oh my gosh. It has freed up so much of my time, and we always have something healthy to eat. When you can delegate or hire someone to help hire a cleaner, even if it's once a month. Make Fridays and Saturdays pizza night and going out to eat night. In what ways can you help yourself think about what does work when your house gets organized? Are you getting up and taking action? Is your partner helping? Do your kids help out? Does following a certain schedule help you? What things can change? Does your, does your routine need to change? Do you need to wake up 30 minutes earlier to clean? Do you need to stay up 20 minutes later to clean the kitchen? It's not all about cleaning, like this can be transferred to whatever isn't working for you. Evaluating can be such a a powerful and insightful tool, but with the Instagram poll. People needed help with household chores, so that's why I'm doing mainly cleaning. But what helped me with our house was getting rid of a lot of stuff. We got rid of clothes. We don't wear toys that the kids didn't play with anymore. We got rid of clutter, and if something didn't have a home, then it just didn't stay in the house. Now you don't have to go like full minimalist style living, but purging every once in a while is a great thing in my mind for people to do because you just accumulate so much shit in a house and then you may go out and buy something new. There were there, I read somewhere where if you buy something new, you have to get rid of something old. And I like, I like that rule. So especially with the wardrobe, if you buy a new sweater, you have to get rid of a sweater that you don't wear that often. So one in, one out. Um, just think about how you can help yourself in your house. And again, you don't have to do this in one day. Little by little, just re start reorganizing spaces and see how you feel. All right. I think I've talked enough already in this episode, so I will wrap it up now. And thank you for being here. I hope everyone has a great weekend, and I'll talk to you next time. Okay, bye.